Maybe We Have A Life

Hello all!

So this post isn't so sexually animated as our regular program, but this is something I believe a lot of you could benefit from. (Vaga wanted to be put on display but I had to tell her to act like a lady..we aren't on speaking terms at the moment)

This was triggered by a conversation I had with a good friend of mine. I was talking to her about the man in my life, and her response to my excitement was "I don't feel he is that into you as you are to him" Let me give you a little bit of information as to what led up to this comment.

My friend has been through a lot in her own personal relationship so I understand her hesitations. On top of that I do have a tendency to go a little crazy about a guy I just have a liking for and this whole situation reminded me of the movie "He's Just Not That Into You"...let me tell you why. I am a complete optimist when it comes to relationships and love, a lot like Ginnifer Goodwin's character, Gigi.

In the movie Gigi is an optimist for love and doesn't care if anyone thinks her crazy antics for finding love are stupid or irrational. Well, I feel the same way. I refuse to be a bitter woman when it comes to men. We all want to love and be loved in return. So back to my story, that comment really upset me, since I am on good terms with a guy who seems to feel the same way and things are just so easy with him. What brought her to say this was that I had mentioned how he hadn't text me all day. She then proceeded with her comment and then also added a few other details that I just couldn't comprehend to even believe. I didn't get to tell her the part where he text me at night saying he had a busy day and asked how my day had gone. That text at night says it all.

Here's one thing I sense with people who aren't so secure in their own relationships, they will point out their own suspicions they have and try to display it in yours. I feel very secure with this guy, and another thing I would like to mention. Just because you started dating/seeing someone it doesn't mean your day to day life gets put on pause. Personally speaking, I work two jobs in retail, I have my own set of friends, I love my blog, I do singing and songwriting as well, and when I have time to talk to him or send a text I do. Same with him, he has his job and works on other creative projects as well. I totally respect that and I love it.

You have to understand that just because you come into someone's life, you are not the main priority. We have bills to take care of, a life to live with no regrets and if that happens to include you that's great, but there will be times when you won't get a text back in a heartbeat and that's okay! There is nothing to worry about. How me and him work is if I don't hear from him all day, he usually sends me a text at night, and that shows me at least I was on his mind enough to see what I'm up to, when he has no obligation to. That says more than anything. People today are so caught up with being the number one priority and my whole thing is, well if you become the priority then how do you expect the person you're dating to progress in their life?

Enjoy your life at your own pace including dating/seeing someone. Don't let what others tell you get in the way of how confident you are because I hate how much the statement bothered me. Then again I am only human, so please be careful what you say because sometimes what comes out of your mouth is a reflection on what is really going on with you, and not with the person you are speaking to.