Generation of Fuckboys

My hiatus is officially over and I am back and as usual Vaga won't hold back (Vaga goes all in or nothing)

I've been busy with work, school, and family, however I know this is no excuse to leave for so long and I apologize but I'm here with a topic that is very near and dear to Vaga.

The generation of Fuckboys is all about the guy who loves the convenience of having someone around but says they don't want anything serious. Well here's the issue, it's not that they don't want to be with someone, it's just that you are the fill in until they find who they really want to claim as their other half. (and the reason I'm not specifically referring to guys is because women do it to men as well)

The man who turned Vaga into what she became was the one who started this pattern and exposed this kind of behavior.

All the signs are pretty clear if you can look past your emotions with the asshole who is toying with them.

Here are a few big signs I've encountered

-Behind closed doors they can be the sweetest and even best cuddle buddy

-When in public you are just a friend, even though their friends have a strong idea that you aren't really just a friend

-You may not know their whole family but either the mom or dad has met you and knows how their child is

-The messages they send you throughout the day show they have a definite interest in you

-If they leave town they might even tell you how much they miss you

-When they get drunk they are all over you despite who is looking at you two

-They constantly state how there is nothing wrong with you, but they just aren't ready for a relationship.

In my particular situation, and I think this is a common occurrence, which they will tell you they do not want a relationship but their actions are completely different. This was what confused me so much. I also have found myself in the predicament even after going through it the first time, except I stated "Look, i've been through this before and I'm not about to again, so know what you want, because I won't be around forever"

I know what to look out for and if someone really wants to be with you, they will make it very clear. If they are unsure but just want company, then get away because as much as we promise ourselves that "it's just sex" it really never is and that's just a lie we tell ourselves.

Here's my thing, why take an interest in someone or date them and act affectionate with them if you don't see potential for a relationship with them? why has that idea of dating completely gone in this day and age? Why spend so much time with one person and introduce them to friends and family if you don't plan on being with them in a serious relationship?

A fuckboy can't answer these questions. They usually have no answer and when you confront them about your true feelings for them they either don't know what to say, or have no response at all. That one is my favorite, because it's the easiest way to piss me off. Also not realizing how you pissed me off when it should be clear, is a definite way to get me real mad.

Another thing I've come across is if you are very sweet and nice, they will think that they can walk all over you. Vaga doesn't play that shit. Cross me and you'll get a bitch that you didn't know existed. Mess with a woman's feelings and you will be sorry. Many of us, myself definitely included, are vindictive and once you piss us off, there are no fucks given.

It's real easy not to fuck with us, just say what you mean and let your actions follow your words, otherwise we will get mixed signals and have a hate for you that you can't comprehend. Just be real, it's not that hard.

Yes, I've had my heart broken and been hurt by this. It is no fun, but one thing I can tell you is once you live through it you are so much stronger when it comes to relationships and will only look for a healthy one, because you know the signs and know they are no good for you.