Baring It All

Many have asked why I don't hide behind an alias. Others have said that it would be wise for me to do so. Here's the thing, after getting feedback from friends they have all said something along the lines of "It's so relatable and we all do the same thing". Now if I were to hide behind a pseudonym my blog wouldn't be so personable. I want people to know the face behind these stories because there is nothing to be ashamed of and that is what I am promoting. There is a real person and these are real experiences. I'm not here to promote sleeping with every guy you encounter (but Vaga has made that mistake too many times to count) but to say hey I know I'm not the only woman to admit to a one night stand and not be ashamed of it.

I had an interesting conversation at my friends house. One night her family was throwing a party so I went over to join in on the fun. Well I ended up leaving that party with one of her dads friends. (Vaga couldn't help it, he was fine as hell and a great kisser!) The following morning I had to go back to the house because I had left my car keys there. So her dad had opened the door and yes, I was in the midst of the "walk of shame". Leading on to the conversation, a week later it was my friends birthday and we were all at the house talking and bullshitting. I said some sarcastic remark to her dad (I've known my friend for 10 years so I can speak like that) his response was "oh, you want me to air out your dirty laundry?" I said "Go ahead, no shame in my game" he then proceeds to say "Well last week this one walks into my house doing her walk of shame looking for her keys" I started laughing. The point of this story is to embrace yourself. Yes I am promiscuous but that's because I am comfortable with it and I am happy with myself.

I would never tell someone who isn't comfortable to do what I do. I respect peoples choices and how they choose to fill their inner Vaga. However, give me the same respect and don't act like you don't want a big dick in your vagina. Now you don't have to speak about it in the sense that I do, but don't be judgmental and act like you've never done any of this either. I hardly get any critical judgement from men, but women on the other hand are a different story. I have encountered being around other women and when I start talking about sex, I sense an automatic dislike or judgement in the air. Their demeanor towards me changes and this is honestly very sad. As women we should empower each other, not tear each other down. So you don't agree with me sleeping around, but if I'm not doing it with your man or family member, then why does it bother you?

My friends actually have told me that they admire the way I am about my sexuality and that I'm not afraid to put everything out there. I love that my closest friends see positive in what I'm doing. My message is that women should be able to talk about sex like a guy without getting weird looks or judged. From my personal experience when guys talk to me about sex I get more of a sense of "damn it's refreshing". Also, when I mention "yea I have a sex blog" the response is usually "really? I wonder if I'll end up on there" I start laughing. The whole point of my blog is what I mentioned earlier, I want other women to understand that we all do the same thing and there is no reason to be embarrassed about it. Like I've always said and will continue to say "No Shame In My Game"

Besides, if it wasn't for our parents being freaky we wouldn't even be alive! So thank your mom and dad for getting it on and creating someone awesome!