Mr. Johnson

Hey Ladies! If a guy says he doesn't want a relationship don't be fooled by the "oh I'm not ready" or my personal favorite "I'm still in love with my ex". He just doesn't have the balls to say that he doesn't want a relationship with you!

This leads me on to Mr Johnson. Continuing on from the previous post, yes he was the one I cheated with. I can't go into this without telling how it all started. I was moving out of my moms place and called and old friend to help me move. Well, my friend came through and by the end of the week we were done moving all my shit. On the last day however, I didn't want to go home, because my new home was with my then boyfriend and that was when I realized how unhappy I was and just wanted to avoid being there as long as I could. He told me "hey well we can go to my friends house and kick it for awhile if you don't wanna go home yet" I said yes let's go. On we went and when the door opened, there he was.

From that point on we all would regularly hang out together, but Mr. Johnson and myself started hanging out aside from our friend who had unintentionally introduced us. One day we were hanging out, and we were both laying on the sofa. We would always mess with each other. He would come close to touching me but new if he got to a sensitive area I would move. Well one day I just didn't care and literally said "fuck it". And there I was on the sofa having sex with this guy.

Now I gotta say here is where during sex communication is key! Since he was taking me from behind, and I am no stranger to anal, I asked "did you stick a finger in?" this guy thought he heard "stick a finger in". Now of course it felt good, but just be forewarned to make sure you clearly understand whoever you are having sex with!

Moving on, at the time me and him were fooling around, I also went through a lot of personal turmoil. So he was someone who I talked to about it and there it was, I got attached. Remember women fall in love with the penis, not the dick behind it! Once I ended things with my ex I still kept seeing this guy quite often. Something that took me awhile to realize was if a guy says he doesn't wanna get serious, despite whatever attention or affection he shows you, believe him.

Did you ever believe a guy when he told you he loved you and then said it to them the next morning with no response? Yup welcome to the team. He said it drunk and the next morning like an idiot, I said it to him. I saw him consistently and spent about 7 months with him. Were we ever together? Nope Did he lead me on? Fuck yes. Now, I will say this, he isn't a bad guy, he was just the wrong one for me to get attached to. I was extremely vulnerable and latched on to the closest person who I thought felt the same way about me.

Now, if a man ever says to get in shape, fuck him (and not literally, Vaga has a problem knowing the difference!) Now, there is nothing wrong with bigger women, I'm no size 6 myself. However, don't tell me to lose weight and then the girl you end up with is at least 2 or three sizes larger than I am. Now, after spending the holidays with him and his family, and being told countless times he wasn't ready for a relationship I told myself "ok, but when he is ready he will come to you because why wouldn't he?' biggest lesson I learned, no matter what you do for a guy, you can't beat history.

He went on vacation, comes back and not even a month later I found out he was seeing someone else right before his trip, and then makes her his girlfriend. Apparently he has known the girl since high school. (He is 34).

What I found out was I didn't think anything could be more painful than the breakup out of a 9 year relationship. I didn't think a guy could ever make me feel like I was nothing and be so easy to just be with someone else and acknowledge me as if nothing ever happened between us. But that was how Mr. Johnson worked.

He is now happy with his girl, and if you happen to read this, I am actually very happy for you, and wish you nothing but the best.

There is a lot more to this story. If you want more specifics, then let me know, I would be happy to share! This post was more what threw me into dating and what base and standards I had for guys to start with. So I hope you enjoyed getting a personal view into my love life. There will be more sex in the near future, don't worry. (those are Vaga's favorite to get into!)